I came across these notes that I took when I was completing my online Caring for Bereaved Parents course. I thought I would share a few notes for anyone who is interested.
Women over the age of 45 are at a 75% risk of having a miscarriage
Men over the age of 40 are 2x more likely to father a pregnancy ending in miscarriage
15%-20% of known pregnancies end in a miscarriage
New born deaths are classified if the baby is under 28 days
Stillborn – pregnancy over 20 weeks who has died before birth or in birthing process
Bereaved parents and families experience: shock, denial, incomprehension and numbness, guilt, denial, anger, hope and readjustment
We can give:
- permission to grieve
- share their experience
Be there. Take the time. Be open. Be honest. Share tears. Show that you care. Use babies name. Attend to all needs. Be patient and gentle. Encourage and give options. Don’t mention autopsy straight away. Provide with info on what to do and what not to do. Help create memories. Meet religious beliefs. Give parents as much time as possible with their baby. Include other family members.
These tips can be applied to all situations where there is a loss – The loss of a child, the loss of a friend, the loss of a lover, the loss of their health through the diagnosis of an illness – it can all be employed to help others.
If you are interested in undertaking the Caring for Bereaved Parents online course, follow this link for more information.